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re: momma

On Thu, 25 Jul 2002, J. Marie Hall wrote:
> little boys are discovering that "we have different parts" and therefore
> free to de-part.  little girls aren't discovering that and don't de-part
> that easily or frequently.

So do boys have trouble de-parting from their fathers, then?  Or are they
already de-parted if they spend most of their time with their mothers?

And would this be more a nurture thing or more a nature thing?

> it makes sense from what i see with tense mother-daughter relationships.
> it also makes sense with the way identity-understanding seems to differ
> in men and women (in terms of timing at least).  a young man is off in
> the world, often, discovering it and himself.  we see a tradition of
> women preoccupying themselves with others and home (which, i'm sure, is
> connected to a lot more than just not differentiating themselves
> "properly" from their mothers), a step that comes usually before moving
> out into the world.  their male counterparts are in a faster progression
> outward that juxtaposes them to their world (and all of its variety)
> thus teaching them about both.

Okay.

> some women never get there.  for women writers, a lot of their writing
> is like some bildungsroman secondhand or twice removed or _something_.
> it's like spain was to europe.  and then its child, the americas, was
> like a colony of a colony.  does that make sense at all?

Um, you lost me somewhere in the Atlantic.  :)

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