Kelvin wrote:
>Here's an interesting question...I think. Does anyone >think that this happens to men/fathers/husbands as >well? Do their intellectual identities ever suffer or >are their minds/dreams/plans ever stifled because they >have a family. I think it does.>Opinions? Thoughts?
Oh, I definitely think that men have their dreams and plans squashed by having a family. Having a family is about giving, really, and I don't think it can be any other way for either sex. One has to sacrifice something once they have a family.
Women want men >to be Alan Alda and John Wayne.Sick. I don't think those were good examples. Those men are not attractive in any way. I don't know any women who want Alan Alda, and definitely none who want John Wayne.
> > women feel like if they don't do the career, they're > > letting down the previous generation.I grew up in a family that is very matriarchal. I know none of those women intended for it to be that way, but most of them didn't choose to have their husbands leave. They tell me to have a career because they are afraid for me, afraid that I will be put into the same position they were. Most of them had to go back to school while raising multiple children by themselves. In my personal expirience, this is a commonplace scenario. So to say that I would be letting down the previous generation by not establishing a career, yes, I would be. But on the other hand, I would be stupid if I didn't listen to them and their expirience.
Samantha